Communication is part and parcel of our daily lives. It is something social beings cannot do without, especially in the context of a couple in love.
I will be touching on the topic of Non verbal communication and also, Interpersonal relationships between a couple in love.
| Here's a brief sypnosis of this taiwan drama that i personally liked.
败犬女王: Queen Of No Marriage |
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| One of the most gripping Taiwanese idol dramas in 2009, the story revolves the heart-tugging romance of Taiwan’s hottest idol Ethan Ruan and sexy Cheryl Yang! Yang plays a career-minded single woman who feels like a loser in love, while carefree youth Ruan looks up to her as a queen! This pair, a thirty-something career woman and a twenty-something working youth who somehow met at the same crossroad in life. Strong, independent, and hardworking, editor Wu Shuang (Cheryl Yang) is an ace in the office, and every boss's dream employee. Though she's a bit clueless in daily life, she makes more than enough money to support herself. But entering into her 33rd year of life, Wu Shuang suddenly realizes she has unknowingly become an old maid who's unmarried. Will their relationship blossom in the end despite belonging to two different worlds?
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Now watch this short video of the last few episodes.
We can see from this video that the female lead has come to realise that her ex-boyfriend did not "abandon" her, instead he was actually hurt in an accident that stopped him from coming back to find her.
From this perspective, we can see that communication is very important in a relationship, especially for the maintenance of it.
If only the two of them kept in contact, and the male came back to Taipei to look for her, they would probably be happily married already.
Therefore, love is best expressed through an amiable and sincere form of interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication between a couple in love is a kind of dyadic communication that develops over time.
Secondly, we can see that there were many non verbal cues, like eye contact (Oculesics) and their body language that people can spot being used in the video.
Her teary eyed look shows her emotions, her actions of jumping into the water towards him to show her acknowledgment of his love. When the video played a flashback to their memories together, the part where they rubbed each others hands to keep warm showed each other's display of affection.
Dr. Nathaniel Branden quoted: “Romantic-love relationships are made or broken by the effectiveness or ineffectiveness of communication. The essence of mutual self-disclosure is communication. And no element of communication is more important to romantic love than that of feelings and emotions”.
8 comments:
Hey louisa. Overall, not a bad entry.
I absolutely agree with you that communication is very important in a relationship. To add on, ommunication is really something that is present always and not a second goes by without any form of communication.
Just as in the case of Wu Shuang and her ex-boyfriend. No signs of communication from him communicated something to her. She felt hurt and betrayed by the silence for she felt forsaken.
Having said that, in future, whenever conflict arises, the most important thing is to open up and communicate. Lest misunderstandings occur from the silence.
Thanks for commenting!=)
A relationship takes 2 hands to clap,just as this saying goes..both parties in that drama should have attempted to do/said something to salvage their relationship.
But because there was no communication going on during the 6 years that he left her, the relationship broke down and just silently slipped away.
Hi Louisa,
I like this drama also, it's interesting that you put it as an example for your topic.
I too agree that communication is an impt part of every relationship... many times people do not realise what is left unsaid will bring hurts, distance and even cause the relationship to die.
The scenerio that you have used is exactly like that. Maybe this shows that we have to be educate more in communication; e.g. counseling and learning body languages. I once read that body language make up 70-80% of communication! Maybe you can share with us more on this?
Thanks for the great entry, keep it up! =D
Little disputes happen because of miscommunication and assumptions made by people.
Yet if there isn't any trust in the relationship, no amount of talking will avail the situation.
Miscommunication is perhaps the bane of many relationships. Have you ever tried your best to do something for a peer, yet he/she misunderstood and condemn your kind intentions?
Communication and trust. These two elements must go hand in hand in all kinds of relationship. Family, friends, spouse, colleague; all require you to interact with and believe in them.
Interesting how you use a drama series as a example of the importance of communication and the hidden implications of body language. Keep it up!
Sometimes, drama do teach us about how life work out for each and everyone of us.
Though drama might be just another story but yet, little things like communication is shown in it.
Dramas tend to dramatize the reasons of why people fall in love and why people break up. Often, it does not reflect real life situations. People fall in love and break up because of many many small reasons that adds up together. At times, the person may not even know the reason why he or she love or hate another person.
There are many types of non-verbal communication.
As for body language, we have reactions from different individuals that exemplifies how they feel towards someone/some situation.
This is unique to them, and others may not comprehend.
There are some terms for non-verbal communication, like kinesics(body movement), Oculesics( eyes), Haptics(touch), Proxemics (space).
Communication illuminates the fog of misunderstaning.. allowing one to trend safely through the journey of life..
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